It's time to share that I am divorced

There are several messages that I share in my presentations:  the importance of support systems, using certain tools to maintain a positive attitude, keeping your faith and not giving up hope, no matter how challenging some days can seem!  And over the past 2 years, I had many days where I really had to push myself to get out of bed.

Steve and I divorced this past year.  It was the hardest year of my life and there were many days that I wondered, Will I be happy again?  Will the tears ever stop?  Should I keep speaking?   How long will the bitterness in my heart last?  And as someone who speaks on positivity, I thought Jean, you’re such a fraud! 

Well, I did get through it.  I am happy again.  Yes, the tears did stop when I let go of the bitterness.  And I wouldn’t be where I am today if it wasn’t for my supportive family, friends and talking through all of my feelings with a mental health professional.  

I’m sure by now, you’re wondering.  What happened?  Since receiving my correct diagnosis, I became more independent and quickly grew and changed as a person, and he didn’t grow with me.   This was something I feared when my life changed overnight.  And it was something I thought about as we prepped for The Today Show interview.  Yet,  I  hold no regrets! 

I have always believed that God has a plan for each and every one of us.  And this was part of His plan.  I still give thanks every time I receive an e-mail from someone across the globe stating they saw my story and are now able to walk.  And I don’t regret marrying Steve, because without him, I wouldn’t have my children.  

But the past two years have changed me yet again.   Isn’t that what life is all about?  When I wake, I thank God for my life.  And as I drift off to sleep, I thank Him for the blessings that He put before me during the day.  Yes, going through the divorce was more painful than all the surgeries and medical procedures combined that I had as a child, but I made it.  And I’m stronger and more confident because of it!  I am so glad that I didn’t give up!  And I thank my family and friends for standing beside me, every step of the way.  

Jean Abbott